Do you realise that the people in your cliques are the ones who have similar thinking, behaviour, and maybe even brand of humour as you?
So, this actually defies the notion that opposites do attract. On the contrary, when it comes to friends and buddies, the reigning school of thought is that opposites do not attract, but repel. So much so that elitism and ostracism might even come into the picture.
I look around and sometimes I see a solitary figure sticking out like a sore thumb in a group of friends. That's when I think that he/she should not belong there and is only there because they are trying very hard to blend in. This usually comes at the expense of their comfort, natural mindsets, and the appearance of multiple personalities. At a time when people are searching for their identities, this should be quite a common thing.
You do not need to be a rocket scientist to figure out the different cliques on the streets.
Punks, geeks, ah bengs and ah lians, goody-two-shoes, growing-up-and-acting-cool-school-kids, flamboyant showoffs, etc...
What then happens if you put one guy from each category and put them together?
Loads of patronization and condescension.
Personally, I have two groups of good friends; one predominantly chinese speaking, the other strictly english. Different characters altogether, and a wholly different experience when you hang out with each group.
I relish it though, albeit I am definitely more inclined towards the chinese speaking gang.
Am I alone on this? I don't think so...
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